Don't Lose Yourself
I have this friend of whom I am delighted to be with because of the energy she exuded in the office. To be specific, it was the kind of energy that relaxes, makes you feel better even if you're in front of a bad situation and I have to say that it's something really, really great. Let's call her Bubbly. She later resigned because of a relationship issue with a male coworker to make it short. Now that was the time that I saw her not just sad, but broken---her face betrays pain that is more than sadness and in the midst of it all, the friends she relied to, well, seem to be friends with the jerk and the quasi-woman who became his girlfriend. (Use your imagination regarding the complicated scenario and yes, if you'll be able to see her, I believe you'll say the same thing)
What lesson can we derive from such things especially in the workplace? I can say a lot of them and this majority about relationships is usually on a darker and much complicated aspect. We should learn and remember from hereon that we must have a line between the personal and the work-related relationships and that friends should not be able to dictate who you are and who you should be. In all honesty, one must learn to determine who is who---the acquaintance, the friend and the close friends who know who you are (the ones you can really trust, compromise and won't betray you; the rare kind).
The problem in this scenario is the fact that a lot of people have been used to being with a lot of people that they tend to forget their identity. Remember, your identity, self-esteem, real character and strength comes from within (and of course, your upbringing) and those things can't be given to you by other people outside the family, otherwise it will lead to a lot of things that if one is not conscious of what is happening, one could be twisted and well, ruined for the rest of their lives. Does it hurt for some? It should be. Because the truth hurts more than a lie and the step to overcoming the pain and suffering is to face your wound and attack it, overcome it. Do not run away, do not embrace it. Then and only then you will be able to start the very first step to reclaim the real person you are.
What lesson can we derive from such things especially in the workplace? I can say a lot of them and this majority about relationships is usually on a darker and much complicated aspect. We should learn and remember from hereon that we must have a line between the personal and the work-related relationships and that friends should not be able to dictate who you are and who you should be. In all honesty, one must learn to determine who is who---the acquaintance, the friend and the close friends who know who you are (the ones you can really trust, compromise and won't betray you; the rare kind).
The problem in this scenario is the fact that a lot of people have been used to being with a lot of people that they tend to forget their identity. Remember, your identity, self-esteem, real character and strength comes from within (and of course, your upbringing) and those things can't be given to you by other people outside the family, otherwise it will lead to a lot of things that if one is not conscious of what is happening, one could be twisted and well, ruined for the rest of their lives. Does it hurt for some? It should be. Because the truth hurts more than a lie and the step to overcoming the pain and suffering is to face your wound and attack it, overcome it. Do not run away, do not embrace it. Then and only then you will be able to start the very first step to reclaim the real person you are.
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