The Expulsion of Emotions: Fanning the Flames
In relation to the post I have made regarding enemies, we should also as much as possible, soak up as much detail as possible especially when we got insulted. Through insults and other possible ways of humiliation and embarrassment done against you, you will be able to make an assessment. If you see that you are not what they have said about you, then it this is the time to integrate the anger into the ball of hatred or emotion and expel it outward---a very powerful potential source of energy. Imagine Adam Sandler's Happy Gilmore plus a great degree of control. Imagine what you can do with that.
Again, I want to make distinctions. Anger that is stored inside can be very self-destructive. It will harm you mentally, emotionally and physically. If such anger is stored a long time and suddenly unleashed, well that's where you'll read some headlines as some sort of guy kills XX people in this place and that. Like what we read or see in South Korean or Japanese news. The difference of anger expelled outwardly and controlled on the other hand, brings fuel to the fire in your purpose. This is very similar, well, actually the same to my explanation of handling that green-eyed monster we call Envy which is very famous for one of the seven deadly sins.
Again, I want to make distinctions. Anger that is stored inside can be very self-destructive. It will harm you mentally, emotionally and physically. If such anger is stored a long time and suddenly unleashed, well that's where you'll read some headlines as some sort of guy kills XX people in this place and that. Like what we read or see in South Korean or Japanese news. The difference of anger expelled outwardly and controlled on the other hand, brings fuel to the fire in your purpose. This is very similar, well, actually the same to my explanation of handling that green-eyed monster we call Envy which is very famous for one of the seven deadly sins.
The Surrender Tactic
More of a truth than just an opinion, most, if not all people crave power whether it be in a conscious or subconscious level. This is one of the points where self-esteem and control gets along whenever we deal with other people especially if either they are of a higher position or when it's a situation where they outnumber you. The Surrender Tactic is quite hard to use since you have to go through the process with a very good amount of self-esteem and consciously knowing that your pride or dignity isn't the one going down, it's for the sake of fooling the enemy to lower down their guard and/or to stop pursuing or tormenting you.
This tactic is probably one of the most calculating and most effective of all. It is a tactic that can provide the time and the room to maneuver since it puts you in a position similar to the number zero--- a number most people describe as nothing but most of them have forgotten that if you add something to zero, it goes up and so on. Never have I seen a tactic so creative, calculating and efficient that a well-planned Surrender Tactic could be the turning point of a battle or even a person's life. In battle, for example, think of this as the sudden retreat of a decoy or skirmisher part of an army where, if the enemy takes the bait, they will be flanked or encircled by the former in turn. In politics, a person surrendering joins the fold or group of the enemy and then destroying it within.
A lot of possibilities. Pick your poison.
This tactic is probably one of the most calculating and most effective of all. It is a tactic that can provide the time and the room to maneuver since it puts you in a position similar to the number zero--- a number most people describe as nothing but most of them have forgotten that if you add something to zero, it goes up and so on. Never have I seen a tactic so creative, calculating and efficient that a well-planned Surrender Tactic could be the turning point of a battle or even a person's life. In battle, for example, think of this as the sudden retreat of a decoy or skirmisher part of an army where, if the enemy takes the bait, they will be flanked or encircled by the former in turn. In politics, a person surrendering joins the fold or group of the enemy and then destroying it within.
A lot of possibilities. Pick your poison.
The Deterrence Factor
In the animal kingdom, there are the predators and the prey. I bet you have a very good idea of what happens when it comes to the former and the latter's relationship: one consumes, the other gets consumed. It is not different here in the realm of men where the current society demands or, imposes civility as decorum. A lot of people see this either as acceptable or just plain accepts it trying to see the world as it is. I was also like that; if the world is so simple and people would just show who they are at face value then the world would be perfect...
...NOT! The world isn't a secure place at all. I was even able to read something like this from a yahoo article about the advantages of being in a relationship with the other partner having an inferiority complex. If that does happen in such relationships that are considered intimate, how about those around us?
Most people, let's say around 99% of the population, had the misfortune of being unable to have the self-esteem that one should possess to be secure and confident of oneself. This can be overcome through sheer determination and hard work to strive to be complete. Though it sounds pessimistic, I am forced to say and admit that unfortunately, those people who fall in that 99% category won't be doing such things to improve themselves and be complete; hence, the politics. And with politics, we see the heart of men doing the cloak and dagger stuff which makes things very complicated.
As you can see, a lot of people who are insecure and incapable prefer to escape these misgivings to themselves by trying to unnecessarily assert control over others. Now, I know I have been talking about the need to combat inferiority complex in our lives but we can't easily help other people on that matter. In these cases we should know how to combat such types of people who we know would usually be an impediment or a thorn in our side: the deterrence factor.
According to Merriam-Webster, deterrence is defined as the maintenance of military power for the purpose to discouraging attacks. This is something that one should learn as it is not always that we are able to solve things diplomatically. How do we tackle such scenarios when diplomacy and the indirect approach fails? As I have read in Robert Greene's books, I have experienced that these tactics DO WORK against such people. But mind you, there is always the need to use common sense since it will always be a case-to-case basis for each scenario where there are a lot of factors that could prove you to be right or wrong.
Tactic #1: A Touch of Madness
People who appear crazy or mad usually have the power of being unpredictable. If someone does something against them, no one knows what will happen next. The power is like the saying of be careful what you wish for if you dare to do it.
Tactic #2: An Exuded Aura
One should learn to read people's auras. This stems from having "a feel" of things---life, joy, anger, power, sadness, etc. People exude an aura of who they are as well. I exuded an aura of intimidating power or anger back at my former workplace where inferiority, immorality and crab mentality was festering.
Tactic #3: A Reputation
You should learn that people should not mess with you. Either make it sure they will always suffer one way or the other per attack they make or you could also develop a reputation of dragging your enemies as you go down. This is similar to one rather famous line in TV shows or movies of today that goes as "Don't fuck with me!"
Tactic #4: Confrontation
A lot of people love to insult via insinuation and such. Some would go as far as to insult you directly and if this continues, it means they are trying to feed their self-esteem with this. So what do you do? Confront them in public if need be but make it sure that the people see the angle of them persecuting you because a bully who's confronted right to his face yet incapable of fighting back will lose all respect and power.
An example of this was a former colleague of mine. He kept insulting me both in a direct and insinuating manner at times. Me, trying to be peaceful and just work foolishly allowed it. So what happened next? I confronted him and his insults via chat. I calmly asked for a duel, man-to-man. My madness is creeping up to me at that time and I was quite glad I didn't have to fight because, when madness and anger creeps in, who knows what might happen to the idiot? He backed out and was unable to insult me for the rest of my stay in the company.
These are, but a few of the common ways in dealing with people of this sort. Remember to try use diplomacy, tact and the art of indirection first before having to use the tactics suitable for war.
...NOT! The world isn't a secure place at all. I was even able to read something like this from a yahoo article about the advantages of being in a relationship with the other partner having an inferiority complex. If that does happen in such relationships that are considered intimate, how about those around us?
Most people, let's say around 99% of the population, had the misfortune of being unable to have the self-esteem that one should possess to be secure and confident of oneself. This can be overcome through sheer determination and hard work to strive to be complete. Though it sounds pessimistic, I am forced to say and admit that unfortunately, those people who fall in that 99% category won't be doing such things to improve themselves and be complete; hence, the politics. And with politics, we see the heart of men doing the cloak and dagger stuff which makes things very complicated.
As you can see, a lot of people who are insecure and incapable prefer to escape these misgivings to themselves by trying to unnecessarily assert control over others. Now, I know I have been talking about the need to combat inferiority complex in our lives but we can't easily help other people on that matter. In these cases we should know how to combat such types of people who we know would usually be an impediment or a thorn in our side: the deterrence factor.
According to Merriam-Webster, deterrence is defined as the maintenance of military power for the purpose to discouraging attacks. This is something that one should learn as it is not always that we are able to solve things diplomatically. How do we tackle such scenarios when diplomacy and the indirect approach fails? As I have read in Robert Greene's books, I have experienced that these tactics DO WORK against such people. But mind you, there is always the need to use common sense since it will always be a case-to-case basis for each scenario where there are a lot of factors that could prove you to be right or wrong.
Tactic #1: A Touch of Madness
People who appear crazy or mad usually have the power of being unpredictable. If someone does something against them, no one knows what will happen next. The power is like the saying of be careful what you wish for if you dare to do it.
Tactic #2: An Exuded Aura
One should learn to read people's auras. This stems from having "a feel" of things---life, joy, anger, power, sadness, etc. People exude an aura of who they are as well. I exuded an aura of intimidating power or anger back at my former workplace where inferiority, immorality and crab mentality was festering.
Tactic #3: A Reputation
You should learn that people should not mess with you. Either make it sure they will always suffer one way or the other per attack they make or you could also develop a reputation of dragging your enemies as you go down. This is similar to one rather famous line in TV shows or movies of today that goes as "Don't fuck with me!"
Tactic #4: Confrontation
A lot of people love to insult via insinuation and such. Some would go as far as to insult you directly and if this continues, it means they are trying to feed their self-esteem with this. So what do you do? Confront them in public if need be but make it sure that the people see the angle of them persecuting you because a bully who's confronted right to his face yet incapable of fighting back will lose all respect and power.
An example of this was a former colleague of mine. He kept insulting me both in a direct and insinuating manner at times. Me, trying to be peaceful and just work foolishly allowed it. So what happened next? I confronted him and his insults via chat. I calmly asked for a duel, man-to-man. My madness is creeping up to me at that time and I was quite glad I didn't have to fight because, when madness and anger creeps in, who knows what might happen to the idiot? He backed out and was unable to insult me for the rest of my stay in the company.
These are, but a few of the common ways in dealing with people of this sort. Remember to try use diplomacy, tact and the art of indirection first before having to use the tactics suitable for war.
A Simple Realization
I took a simple crash course in basic baking. Setting aside the fact that I will have to work all-out again to regain my usual appearance because of all the sweets and pastries I've made, I realized something simple, yet profound. Life is like a recipe to a masterpiece: there are fixed recipes, but again, it won't actually guarantee the success compared to how the original maker does it so we either make some alterations, improvements or even rehash a good chunk of the original recipe. This is similar to the post I previously made but even if it seems redundant, isn't it great that we can see a lot of similarities and actually make distinctions of it?
Why, you ask?
Because in this life and in this world, a lot of things that are commonplace seem to be taken for granted for too much and too long that people have lost the power of insight, creativity and something that will make their lives all the more meaningful and full of purpose. This day and age of convenience, comfort and technology (not mentioning the degradation of values of a lot of people) makes a whole lot of people dull, idiotic, perverted, messed up and a whole plethora of negativity that you can use to describe them. How come? Well, take into consideration the possibility of people not having to lift a finger to fight, to survive and also the mentality of only going into such an extent of only living day by day enjoying the moment and not remembering the future, we will end up with such people.
So again, before I get carried away again, I just want to add that life is something that you should plan for all the way to the end. There will always be setbacks but always remember your roots and your reasons for in the end, they will always be the things to remind you why you're doing things in the first place.
Why, you ask?
Because in this life and in this world, a lot of things that are commonplace seem to be taken for granted for too much and too long that people have lost the power of insight, creativity and something that will make their lives all the more meaningful and full of purpose. This day and age of convenience, comfort and technology (not mentioning the degradation of values of a lot of people) makes a whole lot of people dull, idiotic, perverted, messed up and a whole plethora of negativity that you can use to describe them. How come? Well, take into consideration the possibility of people not having to lift a finger to fight, to survive and also the mentality of only going into such an extent of only living day by day enjoying the moment and not remembering the future, we will end up with such people.
So again, before I get carried away again, I just want to add that life is something that you should plan for all the way to the end. There will always be setbacks but always remember your roots and your reasons for in the end, they will always be the things to remind you why you're doing things in the first place.
