The Deterrence Factor
In the animal kingdom, there are the predators and the prey. I bet you have a very good idea of what happens when it comes to the former and the latter's relationship: one consumes, the other gets consumed. It is not different here in the realm of men where the current society demands or, imposes civility as decorum. A lot of people see this either as acceptable or just plain accepts it trying to see the world as it is. I was also like that; if the world is so simple and people would just show who they are at face value then the world would be perfect...
...NOT! The world isn't a secure place at all. I was even able to read something like this from a yahoo article about the advantages of being in a relationship with the other partner having an inferiority complex. If that does happen in such relationships that are considered intimate, how about those around us?
Most people, let's say around 99% of the population, had the misfortune of being unable to have the self-esteem that one should possess to be secure and confident of oneself. This can be overcome through sheer determination and hard work to strive to be complete. Though it sounds pessimistic, I am forced to say and admit that unfortunately, those people who fall in that 99% category won't be doing such things to improve themselves and be complete; hence, the politics. And with politics, we see the heart of men doing the cloak and dagger stuff which makes things very complicated.
As you can see, a lot of people who are insecure and incapable prefer to escape these misgivings to themselves by trying to unnecessarily assert control over others. Now, I know I have been talking about the need to combat inferiority complex in our lives but we can't easily help other people on that matter. In these cases we should know how to combat such types of people who we know would usually be an impediment or a thorn in our side: the deterrence factor.
According to Merriam-Webster, deterrence is defined as the maintenance of military power for the purpose to discouraging attacks. This is something that one should learn as it is not always that we are able to solve things diplomatically. How do we tackle such scenarios when diplomacy and the indirect approach fails? As I have read in Robert Greene's books, I have experienced that these tactics DO WORK against such people. But mind you, there is always the need to use common sense since it will always be a case-to-case basis for each scenario where there are a lot of factors that could prove you to be right or wrong.
Tactic #1: A Touch of Madness
People who appear crazy or mad usually have the power of being unpredictable. If someone does something against them, no one knows what will happen next. The power is like the saying of be careful what you wish for if you dare to do it.
Tactic #2: An Exuded Aura
One should learn to read people's auras. This stems from having "a feel" of things---life, joy, anger, power, sadness, etc. People exude an aura of who they are as well. I exuded an aura of intimidating power or anger back at my former workplace where inferiority, immorality and crab mentality was festering.
Tactic #3: A Reputation
You should learn that people should not mess with you. Either make it sure they will always suffer one way or the other per attack they make or you could also develop a reputation of dragging your enemies as you go down. This is similar to one rather famous line in TV shows or movies of today that goes as "Don't fuck with me!"
Tactic #4: Confrontation
A lot of people love to insult via insinuation and such. Some would go as far as to insult you directly and if this continues, it means they are trying to feed their self-esteem with this. So what do you do? Confront them in public if need be but make it sure that the people see the angle of them persecuting you because a bully who's confronted right to his face yet incapable of fighting back will lose all respect and power.
An example of this was a former colleague of mine. He kept insulting me both in a direct and insinuating manner at times. Me, trying to be peaceful and just work foolishly allowed it. So what happened next? I confronted him and his insults via chat. I calmly asked for a duel, man-to-man. My madness is creeping up to me at that time and I was quite glad I didn't have to fight because, when madness and anger creeps in, who knows what might happen to the idiot? He backed out and was unable to insult me for the rest of my stay in the company.
These are, but a few of the common ways in dealing with people of this sort. Remember to try use diplomacy, tact and the art of indirection first before having to use the tactics suitable for war.
...NOT! The world isn't a secure place at all. I was even able to read something like this from a yahoo article about the advantages of being in a relationship with the other partner having an inferiority complex. If that does happen in such relationships that are considered intimate, how about those around us?
Most people, let's say around 99% of the population, had the misfortune of being unable to have the self-esteem that one should possess to be secure and confident of oneself. This can be overcome through sheer determination and hard work to strive to be complete. Though it sounds pessimistic, I am forced to say and admit that unfortunately, those people who fall in that 99% category won't be doing such things to improve themselves and be complete; hence, the politics. And with politics, we see the heart of men doing the cloak and dagger stuff which makes things very complicated.
As you can see, a lot of people who are insecure and incapable prefer to escape these misgivings to themselves by trying to unnecessarily assert control over others. Now, I know I have been talking about the need to combat inferiority complex in our lives but we can't easily help other people on that matter. In these cases we should know how to combat such types of people who we know would usually be an impediment or a thorn in our side: the deterrence factor.
According to Merriam-Webster, deterrence is defined as the maintenance of military power for the purpose to discouraging attacks. This is something that one should learn as it is not always that we are able to solve things diplomatically. How do we tackle such scenarios when diplomacy and the indirect approach fails? As I have read in Robert Greene's books, I have experienced that these tactics DO WORK against such people. But mind you, there is always the need to use common sense since it will always be a case-to-case basis for each scenario where there are a lot of factors that could prove you to be right or wrong.
Tactic #1: A Touch of Madness
People who appear crazy or mad usually have the power of being unpredictable. If someone does something against them, no one knows what will happen next. The power is like the saying of be careful what you wish for if you dare to do it.
Tactic #2: An Exuded Aura
One should learn to read people's auras. This stems from having "a feel" of things---life, joy, anger, power, sadness, etc. People exude an aura of who they are as well. I exuded an aura of intimidating power or anger back at my former workplace where inferiority, immorality and crab mentality was festering.
Tactic #3: A Reputation
You should learn that people should not mess with you. Either make it sure they will always suffer one way or the other per attack they make or you could also develop a reputation of dragging your enemies as you go down. This is similar to one rather famous line in TV shows or movies of today that goes as "Don't fuck with me!"
Tactic #4: Confrontation
A lot of people love to insult via insinuation and such. Some would go as far as to insult you directly and if this continues, it means they are trying to feed their self-esteem with this. So what do you do? Confront them in public if need be but make it sure that the people see the angle of them persecuting you because a bully who's confronted right to his face yet incapable of fighting back will lose all respect and power.
An example of this was a former colleague of mine. He kept insulting me both in a direct and insinuating manner at times. Me, trying to be peaceful and just work foolishly allowed it. So what happened next? I confronted him and his insults via chat. I calmly asked for a duel, man-to-man. My madness is creeping up to me at that time and I was quite glad I didn't have to fight because, when madness and anger creeps in, who knows what might happen to the idiot? He backed out and was unable to insult me for the rest of my stay in the company.
These are, but a few of the common ways in dealing with people of this sort. Remember to try use diplomacy, tact and the art of indirection first before having to use the tactics suitable for war.
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